Welcome back for Wedding Wednesdays, mes amis!
This week we tackle a very tricky topic in 5 easy steps: Wedding Hair. And not just any Wedding Hair, but achieving a Dreamy Wedding ‘Do, the hairdo of your dreams.
Now, I’m not a miracle worker. I’m not even a hairstylist. But this is the process that worked for me.
So if you’re a bride-to-be, or want to be an all-star friend or bridesmaid (and you know that The Hairdo is a topic that warrants plenty of conversation and consideration), just follow these 5 steps to achieve the Dreamy ‘Do:
Let’s break it down:
1. Know your go-to, everyday best hairstyle.
To start, you’ve gotta know what works for you. Your Wedding Day Hair should make you feel like yourself – a glamorous version of yourself that you want captured in memory and film for years to come.
Think you’ve got an idea of what works? Try it out for a day. Wearing your hair down and curly? See if you can get through a day without reaching for a clip or a hairtie. Think you want to wear it up? Find out if you get a searing headache around 2pm.
For me, I throw my hair up in a high, messy bun pretty regularly. Its my easy, go-to style, so that was the direction I headed. Two recent examples on very different occasions (please excuse the grainy iphone pics!):
2. Research and pin!
Once you’ve got some ideas, its time to pin away. I captured hair options on one board, shared with trusted friends (and especially Mom!) and then tried to find trends among the pins. I wanted go with plenty of hair-ammunition to guide the stylist.
3. Schedule a trial run.
This is a must-do, not an option. Find the time, cough up the extra bucks, maybe try to schedule on the day of some other fancy event (a friend’s wedding?) but most definitely you must do this.
Here’s why: a LOT of things on your wedding day are pre-planned. The groom (hopefully!). The venue. The rings. The dress. You generally know what you’re going to get. But The Hair, and really the hairdresser, has just.one.chance to get it right. And then that not-quite-right hairstyle will still be photographed and memorialized forevermore. So don’t leave this up to chance. Do a trial. Get your Dreamy Wedding ‘Do.
Here was my trial:
A fair attempt, but not exactly Dreamy. After this, we decided to ditch the sock-bun style and go for a more natural look since my hair just wasn’t cooperating.
Part 3-A: Print your research and discuss with your stylist. Refine your selections. Take their advice (this is their job!) and come up with a style to try.
Part 3-B: Be vocal! If its going in a weird direction, say something. This is a learning process for both you and your stylist so you can get the Dreamy Wedding ‘Do on the Wedding Day. And take photos to review later!
4. Allow plenty of time on Wedding Day.
Again, you’ve got one shot. And stressing and rushing your stylist is not going to let her/him deliver the Dreamy Wedding ‘Do. Build in extra time, and then buffer that a little more. No one ever said “I was bored” on their wedding day. The time will fly by, and its better to have extra time than not enough.
5. Have a backup plan!
Despite the best planning and efforts, things can go wrong. If you walk out feeling like your hair isn’t right, its good to have a backup plan. Again, try this backup plan in advance, just in case you have to use it. Chances are you won’t have to use it, but it will bring peace-of-mind that day just knowing you have a backup.
With these steps, you’re sure to feel confident and beautiful in your Dreamy Wedding ‘Do from the first photo of the day, through the dancing, to the final goodnight kiss!
*photo credit: Kahl Weddings