I checked back in my
records Gmail and two years ago in April we had ordered our Wedding Favors. That means right about now Bride Amye was focused on the favor decision, and I’m willing to be that some other Spring and Summer Brides are thinking about Wedding Favors right…about…now!
This seemingly simple task – how to show your guests you appreciate their presence on your big day – has become a monumental one thanks to the massive wedding industry and all of the options available. Tie the item into your theme, make a charitable gift in lieu of a favor, spend more, spend less, do more, do nothing, ack! Favors can quickly become a headache.
I can’t tell you what is the best favor choice for your big day, but I can share what we decided to do and my mental Checklist for Choosing Wedding Favors. We decided to use personalized matchbooks for each wedding guest as a favor. Read on for the reasons why we went this way.
Photo credit: Kahl Weddings
Some might say, a matchbook? What decade do you live in? We have stick lighters and safety lighters these days, and that seem archaic. But for us, matchbooks checked off a bunch of things on the list:
Is it timeless?
Since our concept was casual elegance, we wanted a favor that would be classic – not something that is super trendy. Matchbooks fit the bill as a classic, elegant item that withstands the test of time.
Is it budget friendly?
This is all dependent on your overall budget. And then, how you want to allocate your budget among many priorities. While I’d love to think I could play Oprah and give every wedding guest a brand new car, that isn’t the reality for most brides!
For us, these favors were small tokens of appreciation but not a huge aspect of our overall budget. We also allocated our budget toward guests and their comfort in other ways: obviously the catering, but we also offered transportation to/from our venue, welcome bags at the hotel, and a farewell brunch the next day. So among these other guest priorities, personalized matchbooks were in the right price range. We ordered from one of the party supply companies online.
Is it personal?
There is a fine line here. No offense intended to brides who have gone the way of uber-personalized, but the reality is I don’t need a keychain or coaster with your wedding date on it. I was there, I had fun, and I look forward to congratulating you on your anniversary for years to come. I don’t need to look at a keychain each day to remember your wedding date.
That said, obviously our favors had our names and wedding date. Call this a case of bride-brain. I also deemed it somewhat acceptable since a matchbook is an occasional-use item that will eventually be disposed, not a durable daily-use item.
Is it practical?
A huge pet peeve of mine are favors that aren’t actually practical. This is a challenge because everyone has different needs, and you can quickly veer into gender-specific territory (e.g. flip flops in female and male sizes, pashminas and cigars, etc.) or avoid practicality altogether with edible items (a good solution!)
Matchbooks made the cut because they are useful. Who doesn’t love the flicker of candlelight? In fact, with the abundance that came with our order, I’ll be using them for approximately the next 25 years of my marriage :)
Case in point: one year later, nearly to-date, we spotted our Wedding Favor matchbook at a friend’s apartment! It was clearly used (practical!) and had seen better days, but I was glad to note that it had a good run and would be headed for the trash soon. The marriage should last – the wedding favor doesn’t. (did I just accidentally coin a phrase?1?)
So, my advice for wedding favors is to consider the following:
- Is it timeless?
- Is it budget friendly?
- Is it personal?
- Is it practical?
If you can hit these 4 marks, then have a blast with creativity and packaging and all that fun stuff! Your guests are going to feel appreciated, which is the whole point, after all.
Photo credit: Kahl Weddings
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